Swaddlers + Waddlers

This week we looked a little closer at the transformative power of radical acceptance in parenthood. You may already notice a tendency to try to 'control' your baby's habits, routines, etc to match your expectations or the ideal expectations of what babies 'should' be doing. Or perhaps you thought you might be a certain type of parent and you're finding you have unexpected resistance or triggers. We considered the concept of radical acceptance as an invitation for more peacef

There is so much to dive into here!! Our conversations around this topic range from co-parenting to grandparents to parenting in community. Your reaction and response largely depends on the role of the other person in your child's life. And even then, it's not always possible to find alignment. Sometimes it's an acceptance that we cannot (and should not) raise little ones in a perfect bubble. Learning resilience, critical thinking and emotional intelligence are only a few pos

This topic is vast!! And there are so many viewpoints and positions that are all supported by research and experts and the truth is that technology is everywhere and at some point it will enter your child's life. For the most part, it's possible to control when and on what level for little ones. An important aspect to consider in the early years is parental use of screens/devices. The main issue with our own use as it relates to children is our diverted attention and the imp

We talked about free-range babies today with the idea that this invitation may be a bit ahead of where you are right now. It can take time to trust your baby and give them some space to explore. "Babies and toddlers needn’t be wrapped in cotton wool. They are a lot more capable and robust than you might think, and completely washable!" This is the article I referenced: https://happinessishereblog.com/free-range-baby-why-freedom-starts-from-birth/ I LOVE this concept. I waited

An overload of invisible work may manifest in different ways: rage, resentment, anxiety, numbing, overwhelm, exhaustion, even illness. And somehow we've normalized this as simply being a mom. We've normalized mom's alone time at the grocery store or an appointment as self care. And some women have had to put their own health care aside in favor of taking care of their family. This topic is really important and essential to address and shift in the interest of our own health

We talk a lot in our weekly conversations about tips for staying regulated and supported in parenthood so this week we spent time sharing ideas for helping little ones respond to overstimulation and overwhelm. It can sometimes be surprising and hard to discern from other behaviors. Most often it looks like: requests for increased attachment or connection, fear, aggression, resistance, disconnection and irritation (by no means an exhaustive list). Like adults, there can be obv

What happens when we trust our child, and when is it hard for us to do that? For our Swaddlers conversation, a lot of the discussion centered on trusting our babies when it comes to sleep (theirs and ours) Trusting that they are waking for good reasons — developmental changes/growth (which might wake them on their own, but also means they might need more nursing), teething, feeling rested from late naps Finding ways of meeting our needs and their needs. For example, when o

We've been exploring Kristen Neff's work on having fierce self compassion and applying it to motherhood. Practicing this level of self compassion means to offer yourself the same amount of protection that you would your child. It means talking to yourself with as much love as you do your child and loving yourself just as much. You may find that it's necessary to sit with these invitations for a while first, practice often and offer yourself the opportunity for a re-do for mor

Community play like going to the park, music classes, play dates, playgroups and library meet-ups can be exciting but also overwhelming and full of new firsts. Here are some of the suggestions we’ve shared in group: Sharing is not developmentally expected. It’s normal for toddlers to want to keep their toys safe or not want to stop playing to give the toy to a friend. It’s also normal for toddlers to take toys from one another as they work through some of the social expecta

Despite some popular opinions, food readiness has to do with development, not age. In general, babies are ready to explore solid foods when they can sit up mostly unassisted and are no longer tongue thrusting. The correlating age range is between 5-8 months for most babies. We offer a separate solid foods workshop quarterly in-person or as a recorded class. We cover readiness signs, getting started, common first foods and stages, baby led weaning, iron levels, choking and al

Some babies are happy to sit at the table peacefully and eat with no end in sight while other parents find it hard to keep babies at the table. As always, there are a variety of perspectives. You can either keep very clear expectations with simple mantras like "your bottom stays in the seat at the table" or you can opt for the other direction which is to choose your battles carefully and meet them where they're at: consider getting on the floor for a picnic, offer smaller tab